Country singer, Dan Seals, sang a song titled, Everything that Glitters is Not Gold. Funny how the shiny things catch the eye and for a moment you think that you really have something special and the things that really mattered and were true are tossed to the side ….and for what…something so superficial but yet feeds the eye of pride and the fickleness of desires. Oh but time……time is the best teacher of the foolish decisions that one has made. Time is the best teacher of what is lost, never to be gained again. Time wears off the “shiny”, the “glitter” that first catches the eyes and it shows that everything that glitters is not gold….it had no value at all but to rob you of what was really true to you.
Emotional Terrorism
What is the deal these days with male and female friendships? I just completed my third phone call within the last month or so regarding male and female friendships and the mess that stemmed from it.
Here is the bottom line:
Ladies, if you are stroking his hair, feeding him tiny morsels of food or nuzzling his ear, after a while he is going to think that you are interested in progressing the “supposed” friendship into a dating relationship….
Guys, if you are wining and dining, snuggling on, talking about a future with your friend who happens to be a girl, or saying or treating your “girl” friend in a way that that you would NEVER say or treat your guy friends……
Then don’t be surprised when your friend starts getting a little googley eyed toward you and the expectations change. And….before you call them crazy, a stalker, or say that they lied to you about being your friend, it might be a good idea to check yourself and ask what did you do to contribute to this situation.
Leading someone on is nothing short of emotional terrorism. And, like any act of terrorism there is destruction that follows, the only thing is that the person who caused the destruction doesn’t stick around to see the damage. Stop it already!
Other Foot It
I really think that a great deal of the problems great and small, would be solved or never happen if people would just “other foot it” – you know put the shoe on the other foot and think….now would I want someone to do that me or someone I love…..just pondering.
Abuse Lingers
While traveling this week I visited an abuse shelter for women and children. I woke up this morning thinking of those little faces, I can’t get them out of my mind. A 5 year with post traumatic stress disorder makes me sick to my stomach. This little guy saw one too many hits, heard one too many put downs or commands or orders. There were many people dropping off toys and clothes for the shelter, but none of those things can fix what was allowed to break and what is really broken….
Welcome
Welcome to the Lessons By Moonlight Blog.
Lessons By Moonlight is not your typical feel good kind of a read. This is going to be a dark and scary ride, even sad at times, at other times filled hope and joy, but isn’t that the way life is? I have a friend that says that no one should ever be mad, sad, or negative. I disagree completely. Each emotion that we have is God given and I think that we are okay with expressing those from time to time. I am not telling you to pull up at being depressed and just park there. No way, but it is healthy to acknowledge how you are feeling, why you are feeling that way, and then make the efforts to move from that station and onto brighter skies.
Lessons By Moonlight is going to acknowledge rejection, heart-ache, regret, loneliness, racism, and social issues at large. We are going to sit in the darkness of those emotions (acknowledge) and then we are going to bask in the moonlight of the lessons( (learn), and then we are going to walk this thing out as survivors, as over comers, with victory in heart and hand.
No matter how dark your days may get, always remember that the sun is shining somewhere and soon, as you endure the darkness, the sun will shine on you again. Journey on my friend, journey on……