Author: lessonsbymoonlightblog

I have thoroughly learned the importance of having an enemy. Thank you for every lie that was told and for the lies that you continue to tell. I even thank you for the spirit of division that was cast and for the remnants that are still scattered. Thank you for every person you brought into your web of deception but was made to believe that I was the spider. Thank you for every laugh and giggle projected at my pain. Thank you for doubting the validity of my walk with God. Thank you for every word that you spoke against God’s purpose for me. Without resistance, strength is seldom gained…. and really, I just want to say… thank you.

Psalm 139

¹ You have searched me, Lord,
and you know me.
² You know when I sit and when I rise;
you perceive my thoughts from afar.
³ You discern my going out and my lying down;
you are familiar with all my ways.
⁴ Before a word is on my tongue
you, Lord, know it completely.
⁵ You hem me in behind and before,
and you lay your hand upon me.
⁶ Such knowledge is too wonderful for me,
too lofty for me to attain.

I used to live here for a long time.   I have learned the hard way that you can be completely right about something but also be completely wrong by how you respond to the mess. At the end of the day after the explosion you are left with fingers pointing at you. “Awww, did you see what she did?”, “Did you see how she looked?”, “What’s wrong with her?” , “Ewww, she got problems”. The real problem never gets dealt with when you become a by-product of the problem. It is easier to point at the weeds than to deal with the roots.

I met a woman at a conference this week who is dealing with her husband’s best friend….who happens to be a female.  She is convinced that the best friend is still in love with her husband.  They were friends several years before they ever met and fell in love and during the course of them being friends she made it known to him that she wanted more than just their friendship, but nothing ever came of it so they continued being friends.

Now…..as a woman, any woman will tell you that most women are not designed this way – I don’t care how much they mask it  When a woman loves you, she loves you.  When her heart beats that special pitter patter that says “amore”, rarely does it change unless her heart has found a comparable home itself.   Okay, well that is my two cents- back to business –

This poor woman is contemplating divorce!!!!  She says her husband may not be physically cheating but he is emotionally absent with her but gives his heart hopes and dreams to this female best friend.   She says that this friend tried to be friends with her like she did all of his previous love interests, but became very nasty when she refused to share aspects of their relationship with her. She said the best friend is always there, she can rarely have a dinner without the bestie calling or her husband making conversation about his “friend”.

It sounds like the grits hit the pan when he wanted to give this woman a key to their house while they were on vacation.

This is what I am pondering….would the husband tolerate his wife having a male best friend as his?  Probably not.  I cannot think of one man who would be fine with his wife going to the movies with, giving a key to his house to, or constantly referring to her male best friend.  Her husband needs to think about how he would feel and then put himself in his wife’s shoes.

As for the female “friend”…..I sincerely doubt that this woman would tolerate the man in her life having a female best friend….so why does she feel that it is okay for her be in the role that she is in with someone’s husband.

Respect and boundaries….respect and boundaries……still pondering…..

Romans 8:38-39New International Version (NIV)

38 For I am convinced that neither death nor life, neither angels nor demons,[a] neither the present nor the future, nor any powers, 39 neither height nor depth, nor anything else in all creation, will be able to separate us from the love of God that is in Christ Jesus our Lord.

Sometimes the elephant in the room is not the biggest problem…  sometimes it is the people who are ignoring it,  sometimes it is smaller things, the things that are not seen that present the biggest problems.  Whatever it may be, ignoring it will never solve the problem.

I wonder who touched, drank, or perhaps swam in the same water I drank today? A dinosaur, an ancient Indian, perhaps Jesus… the water cycle is truly amazing.